Honey Jar Spells

 What is the Honey Jar Spell?

The honey jar spell is one of the most popular and enduring love spells in American Hoodoo/conjure, Appalachian folk magic, and modern witchcraft. Its core purpose is to “sweeten” a specific person’s feelings toward you — to make them think kindly of you, speak sweetly about you, become more affectionate, forgiving, or romantically interested. It is classified as a sweetening spell rather than a full-on compulsion or “bend-over” working, which means it is considered gentler and less likely to override free will completely (though opinions on that still vary).

The underlying magical principle is sympathetic magic: honey is slow-moving, sticky, and irresistibly sweet, so the target’s thoughts and emotions are drawn toward you in the same gradual, clinging, pleasant way.

Traditional Hoodoo Honey Jar (for romantic love or reconciliation)

Basic supplies

•  A small glass jar with a metal lid (jelly jars, baby-food jars, or honey jars work perfectly)

•  Honey (real honey, never artificial; some workers use cane syrup or molasses for darker intentions)

•  A plain white or red candle (or a candle in the person’s “likeness” color)

•  A square of brown paper bag (traditional petition paper)

•  Red or pink ink (for love); sometimes black ink is added to “cross out” obstacles

•  Personal concerns of the target: hair, signature, photo, sexual fluids, or at minimum their full name written an odd number of times (3, 7, 9, etc.)

•  Herbs associated with love and sweetening: rose petals, lavender, catnip, damiana, cardamom, cinnamon, balm of Gilead, lovage root, cubeb berries, or deer’s tongue

•  Optional: a lodestone and magnetic sand (to “draw” them), or a small magnet

Step-by-step (classic method)

1.  Write the target’s full name 3, 7, or 9 times on the paper.

2.  Turn the paper 90° and write your name the same number of times across theirs so the names cross and form a + sign.

3.  In a continuous script around the crossed names (never lifting the pen), write your exact petition in a circle, e.g., “Love me only, think of me constantly, be sweet to me always.”

4.  Place the petition in the jar along with any personal concerns and a generous pinch of the love herbs.

5.  Fill the jar completely with honey while speaking your desire aloud (some sing Psalm 23 or recite their petition).

6.  Close the lid tightly.

7.  Light a candle on top of the lid (dressed with love oil). As it burns, state your desire again.

8.  When the candle finishes, shake the jar gently while calling the person’s name and commanding them to “grow sweeter and sweeter toward me every day.”

9.  Repeat the candle-burning and shaking routine every Monday and Friday (or just on Fridays, Venus day) until you see results. Some workers do this for 7 or 9 weeks; others keep the jar working indefinitely.

Where to keep it

•  On your altar

•  Under your bed

•  In the bedroom (for passion)

•  Hidden in a drawer (most common in traditional Hoodoo)

Variations

•  Reconciliation jar: add balm of Gilead buds and the couple’s wedding photo.

•  Same-sex love: many workers simply use the same spell; some add lavender or violet leaves.

•  “Shut-up-and-come-back” jar: add poppy seeds (confusion) or a devil’s shoestring root (to trip them up from leaving again).

•  Modern witchcraft version: many pagans use maple syrup or agave for vegan reasons and add rose quartz chips.

Expected results (according to practitioners)

•  The person begins texting or calling more often.

•  They become noticeably kinder, more forgiving, or flirtatious.

•  Arguments stop; they start bringing gifts or doing favors.

•  In strong cases, they confess love or propose reconciliation.

Warnings from experienced workers

•  Honey jars are famous for working slowly but persistently — sometimes for months or years.

•  If the person truly hates you or is committed elsewhere, the spell may only produce friendliness or temporary affection, not full-blown romance.

•  Overly frequent shaking or burning too many candles can “overheat” the situation and cause obsession or arguments.

•  Disposing of a honey jar improperly (throwing it in running water or burying it at a crossroads) can end the sweetening abruptly.

In short, the honey jar is the go-to “gentle persuasion” spell in rootwork: not as aggressive as hot-foot or crossing work, but far more focused than a simple self-love candle. It remains hugely popular because it is inexpensive, easy to hide, and has a centuries-long track record of producing noticeable (if gradual) changes in a target’s behavior and feelings.